Regardless of how relaxed you may be as a person, there are those things in life that can rattle you up and cause you to act out of character. Your wedding is one of those things. To put it plainly, weddings are stressful. They are frenzied and so emotionally charged, which can make you feel more overwhelmed than necessary.
A family member may blurt out something offensive. The groom’s brother may have an unwarranted sense of entitlement and the groomsmen? You can bet that there is one or two among your groomsmen that may have taken more Mezqal shots than they should have the night before. And don’t even get us started on missing rings.
Weddings look for effortless in photographs, don’t they? The bride often appears calm, with flawless hair and makeup, and the groom always stands by her side, looking cool as a cucumber, as though he is fully in control of everything. Underneath it all though, everyone is usually anxious with the respective friends and family wandering about full of panicky jitters and unprovoked tears.
Regardless of how long you have been together or the quality of the booze being served at the open bar, all couples want three things for their wedding: for it to be enjoyable, meaningful, as well as free of drama. Usually, this means navigating some challenging scenarios on the road to the altar.
If you are the groom, it goes without saying that the responsibility of protecting the bride is solely yours as the would-be-husband. That means that you must do everything in your power to ensure that the day takes off without any hitches. This pressure to keep everyone happy and make everything appear like the fairy tale it is not can take an emotional toll.
It is not surprising, therefore, that some things or two might fall through the cracks during the planning process. With so many details to keep up with, it is easy to overlook certain important things. If you are gearing up to be a groom and are wondering what you can do to make sure that your wedding stays on track, here are 5 things that you should not forget:
Getting ready on the morning of the wedding is one of the most enjoyable bits of the entire thing. Both the bride and groom get to enjoy their last moment of singlehood with their best friends and family. Most grooms though, have a little drink beforehand to celebrate the momentous occasions as well as get rid of any existing nerves.
As the groom, it can be easy to get carried away in the festivities. Even if you are just doing a few rounds of beers, it is important to exercise self-control. The last thing you want to do is show up to your wedding tipsy or stumbling about. A drunken blur is not how you want to remember the most special day of your life, right?
Buying the bride a gift
On the morning of your wedding day, when you and your bride are getting ready for the ceremony separately, it is a really good idea to appreciate your bride with a special gift just for her. After months and months of dealing with budgets and spreadsheets, it may already be apparent to you and your fiancée that very little about the whole wedding planning process is romantic.
Giving a gift to your wife-to-be is one of the few things about wedding planning that can be romantic and secret. So it is your chance to sweep your bride off her feet one more time before the I dos.
Throughout your relationship, you probably pillaged all your savings to buy her the diamond ring of her dreams. As such, the gift that you end up getting does not have to be over the top. It does, however, have to be sentimental and personal such as these custom star maps from Twinkle in Time or a piece of jewelry that has a special message inscribed for your wife.
Coordinating Groomsmen Attire
As the groom, it is your job to wrangle up your boys and ensure that they have everything that they need for the wedding. It might seem obvious, but you must ensure that all the grooms have their suits neat and ready, as well as the accessories needed; think cufflinks, ties, boutonnieres, hair products like gel and wax, mint, deodorant, cologne, and even shades.
To appreciate your groomsmen, perhaps you can take care of one component of the outfits. For instance, you can get all your groomsmen matching pairs of groomsmen socks so that your outfits can be completely coordinated on the day of.
Fueling Up Before The Wedding
We get it- weddings are the most stressful things ever. Perhaps the nerves may have impacted your appetite or you find yourself too occupied to sit down for a meal. In any case, you should never forget to fuel up for the day. Noises from your rumbling stomach are not something your guests, bride or the priest want to hear when you are busy exchanging your vows at the altar.
Plus being a groom is a full-time job of sorts; you don’t know when you will next be able to put something in your mouth. As such, make sure that you fuel up with a nice filling meal so that you can set yourself up for the day.
Checking On The Rings
Traditionally, it is the best man who is left in charge of the rings. However, it is always advisable to check on the rings yourself before you head out to the ceremony. Entrust the rings to the best man only if he has a good track record of being responsible. If you do forget the rings, you might never be able to live it down, so make a plan to ensure that they are there.
High emotions running wild, free-flowing boozy drinks and cocktails, and seating arrangement plans that that have the potential to spark a family feud that can last for years is what couples often have to contend with on their Big Day.
Add to that the wild-card guests such as the inappropriate drunk uncle, bridesmaids with bad blood, an overbearing mother of the bride and a controversy or two and you will find that most weddings are a recipe for disaster.
The pressure to make everything picture perfect can cause you to overlook certain things. And if you have a full-time job and other responsibilities to deal with, juggling it all can seem too much so it is not hard to see how a detail here and there might get overlooked. Hopefully, with any luck, the tips above should save you from forgetting the most important details.